Lipstick and Soul


Amazon Best Seller

I wrote Lipstick and Soul to address the multiple challenges women face today, having many roles to juggle all while finding time for themselves. The book written from a personal perspective is based upon caring for a chronically ill husband and my professional experience as a marriage and family therapist in private practice.


Pain provides the possibility.


At a certain point, after spending years focused on caring for my husband whose health became more and more fragile, I began to ask myself, “Where do I, the woman, fit into the picture of all of this caretaking business?” The question was painful to face, let alone to answer.  Would I stay or go?  Ultimately, I found leaving was not an option. I loved my husband.  To be emotionally free, I had to find a way to be true to myself while integrating the loss of the marriage I had always dreamed of. Otherwise, I knew resentment would grow.

The concept of woman-self-care became my North Star. Thus, I stepped foot into uncharted territory. I brought with me the skills I had in my professional toolbox. I leaned on faith and talked with girlfriends. It was not easy. The path, which swung back and forth between the role of caretaker and being my woman-self, as painful as it was, turned out to be enriching. It became a journey filled with gifts that were beyond my imagination. The tips and lessons I learned along the way are those I want to share with you.

The journey in the book.

Lipstick and Soul is a multi-layered journey. It is an invitation to walk your path when you get to the crossroad of not knowing “what to do” or “how to be.” I think of the book as a map to help you take the next step when you feel lost, without answers. It is the place where the Lipstick and Soul journey begins.

Lipstick and soul book cover - joan shaver lmft

I Want to
Nourish My Soul


Lipstick and Soul is available in eBook and paperback at Amazon.

Don’t wait.

Renew the journey that makes the difference.

Allow your desire and efforts to create healthy relationships to take hold and thrive.

Do you need a Mini Retreat?

This mini-retreat is taken directly from the book Lipstick and Soul.

I especially curated this moment for busy women who value their time and have that gnawing feeling they must reconnect with themselves … or else!

A Must-Read Book.

This book should be required reading for any woman who’s ever sacrificed or denied her own needs in favor of pleasing others, appearing self-reliant, constantly being too busy, or feeling overly responsible for others. Through stories, both personal and imaginative, Ms. Shaver establishes a warmth and intimacy that encourages the reader to look deep within her own life to identify her “default strategy” and “blind spot” — two issues that work to prevent women from lovingly connecting to themselves and, ironically, to others.

Epitomizing the words ‘self-help,’ Ms. Shaver uses, among other things, writing prompts and journaling to enable the reader to by-pass her head and engage with her heart, the truest source of every woman’s feminine wisdom. That’s what elevates this book above others of its kind: the opportunity to get to know our authentic nature via the ultimate expert on the subject…ourselves.

Thanks, Ms. Shaver, for pointing the way, and clearing the path.

~ CWManheim

Lipstick and Soul is a tool that can bring you more in touch with your feminine power. The author leads you on a journey of inner work and fun, where she is with you for the ride and makes it feel like she’s a dear friend. The book is more of a workbook that helps you develop an understanding of what feminine power is and how to use it. I love the way the book is laid out with side quotes and different types of segments, throughout making it multi-dimensional and very engaging. You’ll come away with a better connection to your authentic, inner woman.

~ Susan Landa

“You should do the thing
you think you cannot do.”

~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Empower the Feminine!

Empower the Feminine!

You Have the Power

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